5 Ways to Kill Your Dreams

April 7, 2015

How do you take your most treasured aspirations and goals, and then actively destroy any possibility of them coming to fruition? And how can you take what you’ve accomplished and watch it crumble? Well, according to Brazilian entrepreneur, Bel Pesce, all it takes is five simple steps.

Bel Pesce has successfully worked on several projects at big technology companies like Google and Microsoft, she’s authored three books, and has started her own thriving schoollocated in Brazil as well as online, which seeks to inspire others to pursue their dreams.

Pesce’s advice to kill your dreams is based entirely on your personal belief system. She contends that if the following five core beliefs are enough to take down anyone’s goals:

1. Believe in overnight success. Bel says to question what appears to be easily earned, saying, “Your overnight success story is always the result of everything you’ve done in your life through that moment.” With that in mind, striving toward your goal for a period of years is what will serve as a solid foundation for you to achieve your dreams.

2. Believe someone else has the answers for you. Yes, you have plenty to learn from others, but Bel insists, “No one else has the perfect answers for your life.” You may make mistakes along the way, but that’s your journey.

3. Decide to settle when growth is guaranteed. So you’ve accomplished a specific goal and you feel you’ve “made it.” Pesce says it’s time to set a new goal to strive for, to expect more of yourself–not less.

4. Believe the fault is some else’s. Bel acknowledges you need other people along the way to accomplish your goals, and she agrees there are many obstacles to stop you along your path. But that being said, she persuades, “If you have dreams, it’s your responsibility to make them happen…But if you didn’t make them happen, it’s your fault and no one else’s. Be responsible to your dreams!” 

5. Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams and goals themselves. Rather than striving for years and reserving your celebration for the brief moment that the goal is achieved, Bel says to keep treasuring all you learn along the way, and to celebrate even the small triumphs. “If every step becomes something to learn or something to celebrate, you will for sure enjoy your journey.”

Bel’s convictions are based on her own strong sense of responsibility and her willingness to hard work–two qualities that have made a huge impact on her life. Do you agree that a personal belief system has the power to make or break you as an actor?