As you might be cutting down on clutter and dust around the house this time of year, you might be interested in extending the same treatment to your state of mind. Famous author, radio host, life coach, and relationship expert Mel Robbins is presently offering a free three-part video series called Spring Cleaning of the Mind through her Mel Robbins website. The series covers the topics: How to Overcome the 5 Traps of Self-Doubt, The 3 Mistakes and 3 Truths of Passion, and Are You Working On the Wrong Problem?

Robbins authored the international bestseller The 5 Second Rule–Transform your life, work, and confidence with everyday courage. The book has been translated into 25 languages and was the number-one selling audible book of 2017. Mel’s insights about human behavior coupled with science of the mind help people get unstuck when they find themselves in some sort of rut. Ultimately, her goal is to help individuals get what they most want–whether it be to increase their confidence and passion; enrich their relationships; improve their productivity, effectiveness, and finances; or break the habit of self-doubt.

First off, Mel has a big problem with the word “fine.” The issue with saying “I’m fine,” Mel asserts, “is that you say it to yourself. That thing that you want, I guarantee you, you’ve convinced yourself that you’re fine not having it.” That is, saying, “I’m fine” indicates you’ve given up. “All day long you have ideas that could change your life, that could change the world, that could change the way that you feel. And what do you do with them? Nothing.” And that’s a real tragedy.

Mel argues that any aspect of your life that you want to change will always be met with resistance. When the time comes, you’re never going to feel like doing what it takes to make it happen. It’s always an uphill battle to change your behavior.

Another word Mel hates is “motivation.” “Motivation is garbage … it’s never there when you need it.” Scientifically speaking, she says people are wired to do what’s easy–not uncomfortable, challenging, and uncertain. “I think at some point we bought into this lie that you’ve got to feel ready in order to change, bought into this complete falsehood that at some point you’re going to have courage, at some point you’re going to have the confidence … it’s complete garbage,” she insists.

To make any break from your routine, Mel says, “You have to force yourself–and I mean force” yourself to get out of your own way, not give into your feelings, and to put yourself in unfamiliar, uncomfortable situations. Robbins describes what the Five-Second Rule is this way: “If you have one of those little impulses that is pulling you, if you don’t marry it with an action within five seconds, you pull the emergency brake and kill the idea–kill it!”

As an actor, you might have the instinct that taking an improv or audition class is what you need at this point, or maybe deep down you know it’s the right time to reach out to a certain agent, or perhaps approach an upcoming role differently. Whatever that inner voice is urging you to do, Mel absolutely insists that you respond with a physical action, even if it’s a small one, to progress yourself forward in that goal. Text yourself, walk over and introduce yourself to someone you’d like to meet, make a healthier choice, sign up for a class–anything to act on the idea that compels you. And do it within five seconds.

To hear more about Mel’s Five-Second Rule, watch her Ted Talk on How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over. “Yes, the rule will definitely help you wake up on time, but what it really does is far more remarkable. It wakes up the inner genius, leader, rockstar, athlete, artist, and change agent that’s inside of you.”

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